The attention-sapping, stress-inducing powers of social media are well-known. There’s literally new (and occasionally not relatively important) content uploaded every second and we’re just so smitten with our Twitter/Facebook/ Instagram/ Pinterest feeds, it’s hard to switch off. And by ‘hard’, we mean pretty much ‘never going to happen’. But one way to reduce the brain clutter that social media creates is to keep in mind that not all “friends” are created equal. There are your besties, then there’s that super-Comment-y girl you used to work with at McDonald’s for two weeks. Err, not the same thing. So you don’t need to lavish these people with equal shares of your attention or Likes. “When we share a lot of personal information, it lets people feel much closer to us than they really are,” says life coach Bobbi Chegwyn. Solution: If you don’t want that girl from Mickey D’s commenting on the whole pimple situation you’ve got going on, don’t post about it anywhere she’ll see it. And when things on social media turn mean (as they so often do) take a step back and remember today’s fresh drama probably isn’t about you. “Everyone is telling their own story,” says Chegwyn. “It often feels personal when it has nothing to do with you.” Stick the iPad in a drawer for an hour and breathe.
Don’t sleep with your phone within arm’s reach. Letting Insta be the last thing you look at before sleep and the first thing you see waking up, keeps the noise at a permanently high volume.