Your Friend­ship

CLEO (Malaysia) - - YOUR LIFE, YOUR RULES! -

The at­ten­tion-sap­ping, stress-in­duc­ing pow­ers of so­cial me­dia are well-known. There’s lit­er­ally new (and oc­ca­sion­ally not rel­a­tively im­por­tant) con­tent up­loaded every sec­ond and we’re just so smit­ten with our Twit­ter/Face­book/ In­sta­gram/ Pin­ter­est feeds, it’s hard to switch off. And by ‘hard’, we mean pretty much ‘never go­ing to hap­pen’. But one way to re­duce the brain clut­ter that so­cial me­dia cre­ates is to keep in mind that not all “friends” are cre­ated equal. There are your besties, then there’s that su­per-Com­ment-y girl you used to work with at McDon­ald’s for two weeks. Err, not the same thing. So you don’t need to lav­ish these peo­ple with equal shares of your at­ten­tion or Likes. “When we share a lot of per­sonal in­for­ma­tion, it lets peo­ple feel much closer to us than they re­ally are,” says life coach Bobbi Cheg­wyn. So­lu­tion: If you don’t want that girl from Mickey D’s com­ment­ing on the whole pim­ple sit­u­a­tion you’ve got go­ing on, don’t post about it any­where she’ll see it. And when things on so­cial me­dia turn mean (as they so of­ten do) take a step back and re­mem­ber to­day’s fresh drama prob­a­bly isn’t about you. “Ev­ery­one is telling their own story,” says Cheg­wyn. “It of­ten feels per­sonal when it has noth­ing to do with you.” Stick the iPad in a drawer for an hour and breathe.

Don’t sleep with your phone within arm’s reach. Let­ting In­sta be the last thing you look at be­fore sleep and the first thing you see wak­ing up, keeps the noise at a per­ma­nently high vol­ume.

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