Praise In of the un­der­share

Be­cause less means more when it comes to spilling the de­tails of our dat­ing es­capades.

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“In the past, my group’s de­fault mode of dis­cussing dates had aways been TMI, with a side or­der of OMG and FML.” ex­clu­sive” is another’s “That still in­cludes us­ing Tin­der, right?”. It’s also about more than avoid­ing another ‘we broke up’ chat (af­ter all, we’re pretty good at shar­ing). In keep­ing quiet, we re­veal more about the re­la­tion­ship than any words can. Say­ing noth­ing means all is well. There’s no drama to de­bate. This made me think back to those lengthy shar­ing-ses­sions with friends, all at­tempt­ing – and fail­ing – to break the man code of what his text meant and why he couldn’t plan ahead. Maybe our tools were all wrong? We went straight to pinot noir for an­swers, but talk­ing to the per­son in ques­tion with a pe­nis might’ve given more clar­ity. (Par­tic­u­larly the morn­ing af­ter.) How­ever, the big­gest sign that our old re­la­tion­ships were flawed wasn’t that my mates and I were rub­bish at com­ing up with good dat­ing ad­vice for each other. It was the fact we needed to spend three hours talk­ing about those re­la­tion­ships at all. Be­cause when a re­la­tion­ship is re­ally work­ing for you, there’s noth­ing to tell, solve or ex­plain. Si­lence – or one art­fully cropped pic­ture – can say it all.

Uh oh!

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