Praise In of the undershare
Because less means more when it comes to spilling the details of our dating escapades.
“In the past, my group’s default mode of discussing dates had aways been TMI, with a side order of OMG and FML.” exclusive” is another’s “That still includes using Tinder, right?”. It’s also about more than avoiding another ‘we broke up’ chat (after all, we’re pretty good at sharing). In keeping quiet, we reveal more about the relationship than any words can. Saying nothing means all is well. There’s no drama to debate. This made me think back to those lengthy sharing-sessions with friends, all attempting – and failing – to break the man code of what his text meant and why he couldn’t plan ahead. Maybe our tools were all wrong? We went straight to pinot noir for answers, but talking to the person in question with a penis might’ve given more clarity. (Particularly the morning after.) However, the biggest sign that our old relationships were flawed wasn’t that my mates and I were rubbish at coming up with good dating advice for each other. It was the fact we needed to spend three hours talking about those relationships at all. Because when a relationship is really working for you, there’s nothing to tell, solve or explain. Silence – or one artfully cropped picture – can say it all.