boyfriend is a lovely human being: Kind, compassionate and gentle. However, I’d like things to be a bit more animalistic in the bedroom, but I don’t know how to broach the subject. This is a matter of timing, as in when to bring it up. You have two alternatives here: The first is after sex, in the post-coital glow. The second is during sex, in a low, sexy growl. Now onto the how. Keep your directive clear: “Baby, it would really turn me on if you’d gently grab my hair during sex.” He won’t mind this, if it means heightened pleasure for you. Help him find the middle ground between too weak and too hard; and you may also unleash a bit of a beast within him. Lucky you.