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CLEO (Malaysia) - - BODY & SOUL -

I re­gret the way I broke up with my ex. I’m a hap­pier, more ful­filled per­son now, but I don’t think the whole thing was done the right way. Back then, I was colder and more cal­lous than I am now. How do I com­mu­ni­cate this to him with­out im­ply­ing that I want to get back to­gether?

AKid­ding. This is one of those in­stances that – thanks to mod­ern tech­nol­ogy – doesn’t need to be de­liv­ered face-to-face. In a text or Face­book mes­sage, apol­o­gise for how it un­folded. If you said some­thing cruel or hurt­ful, ac­knowl­edge it while main­tain­ing you still be­lieve you made the right de­ci­sion. Then wish him well, and say good­bye.

QAYikes, you’re not one to beat around the bush! How does he go at an all-you­can-eat restau­rant? Okay, we’ll stop. This comes down to ap­petite. Just as there are al­legedly some women who like do­ing the oral thing to their men and some who don’t, men feel this way, too.

Per­son­ally, we’re all for it: The more fore­play the bet­ter. CLEO con­trib­u­tor David Smiedt has been be­tray­ing his sex in print for over 10 years. He will tell you things your man won’t. That said, it’s pretty self­ish of him to ex­pect with­out re­cip­ro­ca­tion, and you have ev­ery right tell him so.

Or, just tell him to get down and get busy. Men love a bit of as­sertive­ness in the bed­room, and few things are sex­ier than a woman who knows what she wants, and is pre­pared to de­mand it.

“Hey baby, feel like rid­ing an ele­phant?”

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