orget what the oldies say about romance being dead in the digital era. It’s actually more vibrant than ever, with greater modes of expression. So much so, that if someone you meet doesn’t have a social media presence you can mine for info, chances are he’s got something to hide. And please don’t believe his “I just like connecting on a human level ” rationalisations.
Now, let’s go digging. First up, I’d caution against dating anyone who’s not wearing a shirt in his Facebook or Tinder profile picture. If you’re just after a hot and heavy one or two nighters, by all means proceed. But more often than not, there lies a bunch of emotional insecurities behind the toned pecs that he feels he can airbrush with bench presses. While you’re checking out his pics, have a glance at the male-to-female ratio. This indicates his ability to socialise with myriad genders, as opposed to a who occasionally leaves his pack in search of chicks. But he does get bonus points for pics he’s posted with his mum (but not too many), nieces or nephews (adorable) or his dog (sweet plus the ability to commit). Now let’s head over to his “Friends” section. Again, you want a good gender balance but be sure that the girls don’t conform to a visual type – as in all buxom or wearing a certain hairstyle. Yes, we all have certain aesthetic predilections but when his are so brazenly displayed, chances are you represent more of an archetype than happily-ever-after. Equally revealing are his reposts. They show what moves a man and a sense of depth. Yes, we all gawked at Kim K in the Fergie video but us feeling the need to post it on our Wall? Maybe not so much. Conversely, any of the “sentiments in response to current events gives an indication that he’s aware of events beyond his trousers.
All of this said, however, for all the cyber-savvy/stalking, you’ll never get as complete a picture as with a face-to-face interaction. (No, Skype doesn’t count.) Think of an online presence as a trailer to a film you might be interested in seeing. And we’ve all been put off by a promo clip of a movie that turned out to be brilliant. Happy hunting! Beauty gurus and former friends Kat Von D and Jeffree Star got into a cyber tiff when, among other things, Jeffree Star was called out for inappropriate behaviour. It went on to Twitter and individual videos. Yuna slammed her haters with a heartfelt Insta-message about the severity of cyber-bullying, and encouraged her fans to spread positivity instead.