SOME­ONE ELSE’S LIFE PATH

CLEO (Malaysia) - - YOUR LIFE, YOUR RULES! -

Ever find your­self look­ing around think­ing, “How did I wind up here?” Whether it’s about the job you’re do­ing just be­cause you’re good at it, or the re­la­tion­ship you’re still in be­cause ev­ery­one else says you’re so per­fect to­gether, many of our life de­ci­sions are based on very early learn­ings. “Au­topi­lot is based on hold­ing the past in place to cre­ate a cer­tain fu­ture, not the fu­ture you’d like to cre­ate,” ex­plains Dain. Our pur­suit of hap­pi­ness is of­ten strongly in­flu­enced by our fam­ily or friends and their own ideals. “We’ve never ques­tioned it. We’ve just lived it and thought ‘This is me’ be­cause we’ve been around it for our whole lives,” Dain points out. “[We think that] our only op­tion is to head in that same di­rec­tion.” Sound fa­mil­iar? Dain sug­gests break­ing this pat­tern by mak­ing a list of all the points of view you’ve picked up from your par­ents (eg you’ll make more money if you be­come a doc­tor/lawyer/ac­coun­tant). Then, get real and ask your­self, ‘Are th­ese ac­tu­ally true for me?’. Keep the ones that you agree with, and ei­ther scratch the oth­ers, or make a com­mit­ment to un­der­stand where th­ese be­liefs come from and to not let them block your true path. “You’ll start to get the sense that some­thing dif­fer­ent is pos­si­ble,” ex­plains Dain. “[This aware­ness is] how we make changes in the be­gin­ning.”

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