NOT ZOOMING INTO YOUR FUTURE
“Most of us have been on autopilot since forever, and are walking around blindly hoping that the next thing will give us what we want, while not really having the sense of what we would truly desire,” explains Dain. The secret is to start chasing the feeling you’re after.
If there are no limitations in your world and you can have anything at all, what will it be? “If you can get an idea of not just the job that you’d like, but the way it’d feel in your world to have that on a daily basis, it’ll give you a guide to follow for the rest of your life,” he says. Write this feeling down in as much detail as possible and refer back to it often to keep you on track. It might sound like an airy-fairy concept, but calling up that energy can have a powerful impact on your life. If you’re trying to decide between two different job roles (or even, guys to date!) and one feels a lot more like that energy you’ve written down, choose it. (FYI, we’re hoping to feel bod-con vibes like Selena Gomez: the Victoria’s Secret show edition.) “By doing this, you’ll know whether a person or a class will contribute to the life you’d really like to have, before you ever spend any time or money on it,” Dain explains. Once you’ve captured that feeling, be sure to only share your plans with people who will support you (not grill you more than a chicken satay). Most of us have one or two people like that in our lives who will nurture our quest for a better future — a Yoda to our Luke Skywalker. “Find one person who truly has your back, so when you tell them these kinds of things you’re excited about, they get excited, too,” Dain suggests. “Having that person breaks you out of the idea that you can’t do this and you’re all alone. That one person can be a source of energy and make a contribution to your choice.” But whether you’re clear on what’s needed to shake up your career, or you’re still musing over options, remember that without funding, your daydreams will remain just that — a dream. So get saving now. “Whatever you’re doing — with every job that you have, every day that you get paid — put a percentage of your money aside,” Philip recommends. Now I’m surrounded by things I need and that spark joy. It’s amazing to know that I don’t need a lot to be happy, and it’s allowed me to live and work uncluttered.” — Sara, 30, Author “I used to complain a lot about my job until I saw a counsellor. To balance the stress of my work, she had me compile a personal bucket list. Now I have no reason not to live the life I truly want!” — Lila, 31, Nurse
Bring your dream reality into focus!