I found out that my boyfriend is still pretty close to his ex-girlfriend and her mom. He tells me they’re just friends but he’d even house-sit for them when they go away. On top of that, it’s hard to communicate because English isn’t his first language. What should I do? First up, you need to acknowledge that there are two separate issues here – communication and his past. By tackling the language issue first, you may well be
Aable to better understand his motivations and actions; so help him with the vocabulary and context in which to express himself. As you do so, bear in mind that a civil relationship with his ex and family is actually a good thing, as it illustrates a sense of integrity and maturity. For if he never spoke to them after the end of the relationship, it could signal a certain petulance that he may well carry over into your relationship. Also, he has clearly chosen to be with you.
QMy guy wants to participate in everything I do, including my girls’ night out. I think it’s sweet that he’s interested, but I also feel suffocated. Help? OMG – I’ve been that guy! I had to be told in no uncertain terms that while I was loved and she really enjoyed my company,
ACLEO contributor David Smiedt has been betraying his sex in print for over 10 years. He will tell you things your man won’t. I could be, well, “stifling” at times. That word hit me like a sledgehammer, but it was what I needed to hear. I realised that her need for time on her own or with friends didn’t mean she didn’t want to hang with me. In fact, some time apart led to us bring different things to our relationship which really helped it grow.
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