good friend tends to underestimate her drinking capacity when we party. More often than not, she gets super drunk. I think it’s unsafe, and also kind of troublesome for the rest of us. How do we bring this up lightly? You don’t bring it up lightly. You bring it up with the gravity it deserves. The crucial thing is to frame it in terms of your as opposed to making her feel judged. If she is verging on alcoholism – which sounds like it could be a possibility but you don’t want to use the word just yet – be prepared for a lash-out. She may even feel like you’re asking to choose between vodka and you. Also, for now, do make these conversations very private.