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CLEO (Malaysia) - - YOUR LIFE, YOUR RULES! -

s a cou­ple, you sim­ply just “clicked”, right? You clicked with the en­thu­si­asm of a Net-A-Porter sale. OMG, there’s all this stuff you had in com­mon – both of you liked vin­tage Mariah Carey, dou­ble denim and The Walk­ing Dead! #meant­tobe. It’s all tick­ety­boo and peachy keen in your re­la­tion­ship at present, so why would that first trip away to­gether be any dif­fer­ent?

Well, for a start, that freaky ho­tel room sex is go­ing to be off­set by the fact that you are go­ing to be to­gether 24/7. And it’s not just for a loved-up long week­end. We’re talk­ing like a work week with ab­so­lutely no breaks. Now, we’re not try­ing to be neg­a­tive. In fact, just the op­po­site. If you have the fol­low­ing con­ver­sa­tions be­fore you leave, you can make your trip one to re­mem­ber for all the right rea­sons. stress lev­els rise with ev­ery minute your beloved daw­dles with choos­ing what goes into his lug­gage, tack­ling last-minute emails or even a ran­dom “Wait, I just re­mem­bered I had to...” de­ci­sions, it’s prob­a­bly best to lay out your hy­per­ven­ti­lat­ing cards on the ta­ble at least a few days be­fore­hand and clearly in­di­cat­ing your pref­er­ence. Re­mem­ber, this is the start of the hol­i­day. You want it to be pos­i­tive. if he counts shop­ping as a leisure ac­tiv­ity). Some of us guys ac­tu­ally do. Either way, the im­por­tant thing to re­alise is that just be­cause you spend an af­ter­noon or two do­ing some­thing you want to do alone doesn’t mean your re­la­tion­ship is some­how flawed or that the hol­i­day is sub­par.

It’s just the op­po­site ac­tu­ally. By learn­ing to be sep­a­rate, you’re learn­ing how to be a wholly func­tional cou­ple.

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