All work and no play makes you dull. So when your career eats into your sex life, how do you put the brakes on?
Office affairs and Period Sex. Um...
Q Work has been eating up all my time lately and adding to my stress. I find it hard to tune out so it’ s making it really hard to enjoy sex. Help!
A: Does t he word “whiskey ” mean anything to you? Okay, jokes aside, even ifit’ s not booze t hat will help you ease up, the key here lies in finding a transitional state between your work and stressed state of mind, and coming home to your boo. Whether it’s just straight up dinner, watching 50Shades together or soaking in a bath, try to make it a phone-free zone. No messages, no emails, no work talk. To really mix things up, add some novelty to the sex by changing up t he position , location, toys ... Anything, really, to help with the idea that you’ re just going through t he motions.
Q Ever since I scored my dream job, I’ ve been more dominant in the bedroom and my partner doesn’t seem to enjoy it. Is he over-re acting?
A: Short answer, yes , we’re with you on t he overreacting score. Firstly, congratulations on scoring your dream j ob. Secondly, congratulations that this success has boosted your confidence in the bedroom, because confidence and dominance are not that different —unless of course it’s the safe word type of dominance( even so, this is not a terrible thing, either ). That’ s something you should own, because there are few things more alluring than a woman finding her erotic power. It’ s up to him to sit back and enjoy the ride( perhaps quite literally ).
QI have a not- so - secret fantasy about doing itin the workplace. I ’m keen on one of the managers, and he’s seen my signals , but nothing has happened yet. Should I go ahead?
A: Sure, if you want to have a less-than-glowing reference and ending up with your career in the toilet, go ahead. As thrilling as itis( the thought that it’s risky and dangerous maybe the factor ), you’re jeopardising something t hat can never be repaired if you’ re caught panties down. And that’ if’ could become a ’ when’ quicker than you think. Most workplace sin 2017 have CCTV sin places you’d hardly think. We’ re not saying you can’t shag a colleague. Go f or it. Just maybe take the action elsewhere. A park , or you know, your place.
Q Can you help t alk me understand the stigma of Period Sex? I of ten do i t but my girlfriends seem to cringe i n horror.
A: If there was anything like uncharted territory, Period Sex is up there with the Mars mission and the lost islands of the Indonesian Archipelago: Something so far-flung and dismissed as impassable, or just plain uninhabitable. A no-go zone. For some people, that is. For others like you, it’s the complete norm and“that time of the month” doesn’t throw sex life into a week-long hiatus. Plus, long gone are the mid-18th century days where women on their periods are considered “unclean”. There’s no reason to f eel uncertain or self-conscious talking about Period Sex. It happens, people should know it, and really, all it takes it just laying a towel down( or hopping into the shower), and having an open conversation with your partner. He won’t mind it, as you know. Because why should you compromise your orgasms?
When does the ride start?