Talk Big

Fi­nesse your way around the room with ex­pert tips on how to net­work and small talk . Awk­ward si­lences, what are they again?

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There’s no need to be a fish out of wa­ter when it comes to net­work­ing like a pro — you can even look good do­ing it!

Wel­come to 2018 —it’ s the era of in­flu­ence. More than just like son a pic­ture, it‘s fair to say t hat you also need to be able to work a room (or at the very least be mem­o­rable) in the age of know or be known.

Con­ver­sa­tion starters are like pick-up lines: a good one means you’ll bond; mess up and be haunted by missed op­por­tu­ni­ties. These tips will have you work­ing the room like a pro.


Be­fore any chat­ting be­gins , check your in­ter­nal di­a­logue, says pro­fes­sional speaker and net work­ing coach Hay­ley An­gell. It may seem like an ef­fort, but it pays to get into the right mind­set. “When you di­rect all your en­ergy and fo­cus in­ter­nally, you cre­ate a mas­sive bar­rier be­tween you and t he other guests , ” says An­gell. Let­ting go of neg­a­tive selft alk ( “I sound stupid ”, “I don’t know any­one”) will give you an in­stant con­fi­dence boost. Juanita Ram ayah, who‘s a ra­dio and TV host says that be­ing your hap­pi­est self will make the best im­pres­sion .“Go in there­with a pos­i­tive mind­set, and pass on those yummy good vibes , ” she said.


Ever felt awk­ward go­ing solo? Smile warm ly and make eye con­tact with oth­ers who ar­rive alone. Even if they don’t make a di­rect bee­line f or you, your warmth will make t hem want to meet you. When in­tro­duc­ing your­self, a firm hand­shake and con­fi­dent smile is a good start. Hold out your hand first and try to men­tion t he other per­son’s name to help you re­mem­ber it, says Man­ag­ing Di­rec­tor of Avant-X , Nikola Has­san. And don’t ever kiss some­one on the cheek the first time you meet t hem!


Gifted con­ver­sa­tion­al­ists will tell you peo­ple love to talk about them­selves, but how can you get t hem to open up? A fail-safe for­mula: com­bine a“lo­ca­tion” or“ob­ser­va­tion” state­ment with an ope­nended ques­tion. For ex­am­ple, “What a great t urn out! How did you meet t he host? ”, or “That’ s a nice jacket. Where is it from ?”. Or, you can sim­ply ask them how their day was, says Nikola. The key here is to“catch the per­son’ s trivia while it’ s hot ”.


You should al­ways lis­ten more than talk. Also, you never know what peo­ple are go­ing through, so keep your en­ergy pos­i­tive, Juanita re­it­er­ates . Once you’ve bro­ken the ice, keep the mo­men­tum up by ac­tively lis­ten­ing. En­cour­age the speaker by nod­ding, ask­ing ques­tions and main­tain­ing eye con­tact. If it’ s a work event, limit your al­co­hol in­take and be­ware the over share. Top­ics: light and sim­ple. When in doubt, fol­low this pro hack: be right, be brief, be gone.

You should al­ways lis­ten more than talk ... Once you’ve bro­ken the ice, keep the mo­men­tum up by ac­tively lis­ten­ing ... When in doubt, fol­low this pro hack: be right, be brief, be gone.

“Why yes, dar­ling, I ’m in­cred­i­ble at get­ting at­ten­tion...”

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