SEX: SEXTING GONE WRONG

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What hap­pens when you ac­ci­den­tally send your racy im­age or text mes­sage to the wrong per­son? Three women share their em­bar­rass­ing sto­ries.

WE AD­MIT, SEXTING CAN BE FUN AT TIMES ES­PE­CIALLY WHEN IT IS WITH SOME­ONE YOU’RE IN A RE­LA­TION­SHIP WITH. THIS MONTH, THREE WOMEN RE­VEAL THEIR HOR­RI­BLE EX­PE­RI­ENCES WHEN THEIR IMAGES AC­CI­DEN­TALLY ENDED UP WITH THE WRONG PEO­PLE! Gabriella*, 40

“If you ever won­dered why I am so shy, re­served and take a long time to re­ply a What­sApp mes­sage, it’s be­cause of my hor­ri­ble ex­pe­ri­ence with the mes­sag­ing ser­vice a few years ago. My hus­band and I were go­ing through a rough time and our sex life had been a li’l dull. One day, I de­cided to sur­prise him by send­ing him an al­most nude pic­ture of my­self. I still re­mem­ber it was af­ter I got a Brazil­ian wax and I bought my­self a seethrough night­gown. I thought if I took a pic­ture of me stand­ing in front of the mir­ror, it would be so bor­ing!

So I got my girl­friend to take a shot of me on the counter top, lay­ing down in the most se­duc­tive way, with lit­tle left to the imag­i­na­tion. But in­stead of send­ing it to my hus­band, I don’t know how I ended up send­ing it to ev­ery­one on my con­tact list. Imag­ine the hor­ror I went through af­ter that! To cover up the story, I im­me­di­ately de­ac­ti­vated that num­ber and got a new one. When peo­ple asked me, I just told them that my phone was stolen and some­one must have hacked into my con­tact list. Un­til to­day, I still can’t get over that in­ci­dent. While most peo­ple be­lieved that lie I told them, I still feel em­bar­rassed to face some of them. Luck­ily my par­ents and sib­lings were not on my What­sApp list back then!”

Feli­cia*, 34

“My part­ner and I sext each other quite of­ten. We treat it as an ap­pe­tiser be­fore a steamy ses­sion in the night. It was one of those Fri­day nights when he was work­ing late and I was get­ting re­ally tired. I sent him a pic­ture of my­self say­ing “I just plea­sured my­self ”, with the hope that he would get the mes­sage I wanted some ac­tion tonight. Af­ter send­ing the mes­sage, I didn’t look at my phone and just dozed off. The next morn­ing, I saw there was no text mes­sage from him so I headed off to work. When I reached the of­fice, my boss (who has been hit­ting on me for ages) called me to his room for a chat. He low­ered down the blind­folds and touched my arm. I got a shock and told him off as I felt his ac­tions were com­pletely in­ap­pro­pri­ate and I de­cided to re­port the mat­ter to HR.

When Sylvia*, my HR man­ager called me to her room, she passed me a warn­ing let­ter and ac­cused me of sex­ual ha­rass­ment. Taken aback, I ques­tioned her fur­ther and she showed me what had given my boss the wrong idea. In­stead of send­ing the mes­sage to my part­ner, I ac­ci­den­tally sent the mes­sage to my boss. To­tally ashamed of my­self, I went to my boss and apol­o­gised, but he and my HR man­ager didn’t be­lieve me. The news went out to my col­leagues and I had no choice but to re­sign be­cause I felt un­com­fort­able fac­ing them. On the bright side, I had no re­grets leav­ing the com­pany as

I didn’t see a fu­ture there.”

Dav­ina*, 25

“When I was dat­ing my ex, we sent each other a lot of sexts. Al­though my friends told me to be care­ful as it could back­fire, I never lis­tened. I was also quite blind to the fact that my ex never sent any com­pro­mis­ing pic­tures of him­self. Two years later, we had an ac­ri­mo­nious break-up but I never thought he would do what he did – he sent my nude images to my very con­ser­va­tive par­ents! I can still re­mem­ber the shock, hor­ror and em­bar­rass­ment I felt when I got a call from my par­ents telling me about the images they had re­ceived. My par­ents were up­set, an­gry and hu­mil­i­ated. They re­fused to have any­thing to do with me and for a few weeks, there was no com­mu­ni­ca­tion be­tween us at all.

In the end, I went to see my par­ents, cried and begged for their for­give­ness. I came clean on what had hap­pened be­tween my ex and me. I also told them that he had even cir­cu­lated my pic­tures to a few porn web­sites! To my sur­prise, my par­ents per­suaded me to lodge a po­lice re­port. He was charged and I’m so glad for that. Les­son learnt; it’s okay to have fun, but do it smartly cos you never know when things can be turned against you!”

*Names have been changed to pro­tect their pri­vacy.

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