SEX: SEXTING GONE WRONG
What happens when you accidentally send your racy image or text message to the wrong person? Three women share their embarrassing stories.
WE ADMIT, SEXTING CAN BE FUN AT TIMES ESPECIALLY WHEN IT IS WITH SOMEONE YOU’RE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH. THIS MONTH, THREE WOMEN REVEAL THEIR HORRIBLE EXPERIENCES WHEN THEIR IMAGES ACCIDENTALLY ENDED UP WITH THE WRONG PEOPLE! Gabriella*, 40
“If you ever wondered why I am so shy, reserved and take a long time to reply a WhatsApp message, it’s because of my horrible experience with the messaging service a few years ago. My husband and I were going through a rough time and our sex life had been a li’l dull. One day, I decided to surprise him by sending him an almost nude picture of myself. I still remember it was after I got a Brazilian wax and I bought myself a seethrough nightgown. I thought if I took a picture of me standing in front of the mirror, it would be so boring!
So I got my girlfriend to take a shot of me on the counter top, laying down in the most seductive way, with little left to the imagination. But instead of sending it to my husband, I don’t know how I ended up sending it to everyone on my contact list. Imagine the horror I went through after that! To cover up the story, I immediately deactivated that number and got a new one. When people asked me, I just told them that my phone was stolen and someone must have hacked into my contact list. Until today, I still can’t get over that incident. While most people believed that lie I told them, I still feel embarrassed to face some of them. Luckily my parents and siblings were not on my WhatsApp list back then!”
“My partner and I sext each other quite often. We treat it as an appetiser before a steamy session in the night. It was one of those Friday nights when he was working late and I was getting really tired. I sent him a picture of myself saying “I just pleasured myself ”, with the hope that he would get the message I wanted some action tonight. After sending the message, I didn’t look at my phone and just dozed off. The next morning, I saw there was no text message from him so I headed off to work. When I reached the office, my boss (who has been hitting on me for ages) called me to his room for a chat. He lowered down the blindfolds and touched my arm. I got a shock and told him off as I felt his actions were completely inappropriate and I decided to report the matter to HR.
When Sylvia*, my HR manager called me to her room, she passed me a warning letter and accused me of sexual harassment. Taken aback, I questioned her further and she showed me what had given my boss the wrong idea. Instead of sending the message to my partner, I accidentally sent the message to my boss. Totally ashamed of myself, I went to my boss and apologised, but he and my HR manager didn’t believe me. The news went out to my colleagues and I had no choice but to resign because I felt uncomfortable facing them. On the bright side, I had no regrets leaving the company as
I didn’t see a future there.”
“When I was dating my ex, we sent each other a lot of sexts. Although my friends told me to be careful as it could backfire, I never listened. I was also quite blind to the fact that my ex never sent any compromising pictures of himself. Two years later, we had an acrimonious break-up but I never thought he would do what he did – he sent my nude images to my very conservative parents! I can still remember the shock, horror and embarrassment I felt when I got a call from my parents telling me about the images they had received. My parents were upset, angry and humiliated. They refused to have anything to do with me and for a few weeks, there was no communication between us at all.
In the end, I went to see my parents, cried and begged for their forgiveness. I came clean on what had happened between my ex and me. I also told them that he had even circulated my pictures to a few porn websites! To my surprise, my parents persuaded me to lodge a police report. He was charged and I’m so glad for that. Lesson learnt; it’s okay to have fun, but do it smartly cos you never know when things can be turned against you!”
*Names have been changed to protect their privacy.