my hormones come into play, it’s a little more challenging to stay level-headed. But I do try my best. So, my answer to her was no, I don’t get jealous. After looking up the meaning of the word ‘jealousy’ online, I’ve realised more than ever that I truly want the best for everyone around me. I’ve learnt to curb the feelings of insecurity and fear of losing someone, or something, of great personal value. When it comes to my relationships with people, I take on the ‘if it’s meant to be, it will be’ attitude. If, for example, my best friend found a new good friend, I wouldn’t be jealous at all. I’d be happy for her as she’s found another invaluable friend who makes her happy. Who am I to take away that happiness? Career-wise, watching a friend climb the corporate ladder successfully or start a new business just makes me feel so proud. No, I won’t be envious and compare my life with hers, because I now know that what’s meant for her life may not be meant for mine. Likewise, reading this month’s Focus story made me think about how so many of us grow up dreaming of white picket fences and the perfect marriage, only to soon find out that it isn’t what we imagined at all. But... it’s okay. The best marriage, I believe, is one built on comfort and respect. It’s not only about accepting your partner for who he or she is, but also appreciating the differences. For me, it was building a home where we, as a family, felt comfortable and loved. It may not seem perfect to others looking in, but I’m thankful that we feel our home is just the way it’s meant to be.