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Your tod­dler is fas­ci­nated with throw­ing things, but if you aren’t pre­pared to keep run­ning af­ter his toys, try these so­lu­tions.

Herworld (Malaysia) - - HER STORY -

Your one-year-old likes to throw things and this seemed like fun at first. But is your child’s habit cre­at­ing all sorts of prob­lems?

For ex­am­ple, when he throws food, which ends up stain­ing the floor; when he tosses some­thing heavy or sharp, which can be dan­ger­ous, or when he keeps “ac­ci­den­tally” drop­ping his spoon time and again so you can re­turn it to him. And if you’ve ever sat with your lit­tle one dur­ing a plane ride, you’ll have dis­cov­ered how far he can throw a toy down the aisle, in­con­ve­nienc­ing you and other pas­sen­gers. Here’s what you first need to un­der­stand. for one-yearolds, throw­ing is:

A part of the learn­ing ex­pe­ri­ence. That’s why your tod­dler never tires of look­ing to see how far the ob­ject went, and what hap­pens when it lands.

An emo­tional re­lease. When Ju­nior is up­set or frus­trated, he tries to re­lease those neg­a­tive feel­ings by throw­ing ob­jects.

A way to seek at­ten­tion. Your child may have learnt that you’re al­ways run­ning over and pick­ing up toys for him.

This is likely to be a phase that he’s go­ing through. Within a year or so, he will be more in­ter­ested in play­ing with a toy, or in eat­ing his food than throw­ing it.

For now, while you can give him firm warn­ings, he may ig­nore them al­to­gether. Try these strate­gies in­stead.

LIMIT WHAT HE CAN GRAB

For ex­am­ple, when he is in his high chair, make sure he can reach only his own plate, spoon and cup. Or, al­low him to play only with stur­dier toys.

This will not com­pletely pre­vent your lit­tle one from throw­ing things, but can limit any po­ten­tial dam­age.

LET THE OB­JECT RE­MAIN WHERE IT IS

Don’t give him a re­place­ment. If he knows that he can­not re­trieve the ob­ject he threw, he will no longer do it. He may howl with rage, but he will be less likely to re­peat this ac­tion.

Tell him to keep the toy close; if he throws it, he won’t get it back.

HELP HIM DE­VELOP A NEW HABIT

Sit with him when he’s play­ing with a toy, or when he is hav­ing his meals. The mo­ment you think he is about to throw the item, re­move it from his grasp, put it back in front of him, and say: “No, you mustn’t throw things.”

Pre­pare to re­peat this sev­eral times ev­ery day.

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