FAMILY TIME: WHAT KIDS WANT
I enjoy my family time – building tents, running around the house, and most importantly, just being together with my family. It helps to build up my confidence and it teaches me to look for positive attention. Parents may assume that family time is going out somewhere, watching TV or just eating outside. But, do you realise that you’re not the only one with ideas? Here are some tips for successful family time, from a child’s point of view.
1 Listen to their silly stories
This builds up their confidence, and helps them speak clearly. It also helps with school – when they give speeches or want to share ideas. It inspires creativity too, as your child has to think and put ideas together into a story. They will get to express their feelings and tell you what’s important to them. Isn’t that helpful? You get feedback from your child and you can improve, or choose to stay that way!
2 Live (and play) in the moment
The time when you’re on your phone and your kid is all alone is going to pass and never come back. If you spend time being silly, your kid will always remember it clearly. However, if you don’t spend time together, they may always remember the moment when they were alone. You can call it a mini vacation when you spend more time with your kids and just joke around! Everyone spends so much time being serious – sometimes, we need a break!
3 Let them lead
If they take the lead in games, they will learn to think independently, so if they have to lead in the future, they’ll have a rough idea on how to do so. It teaches them to explain instructions and communicate well with others. Playing games will also decrease attention-seeking behaviour, as you are paying attention to them. Some children would throw things around and shout a lot – this gets them negative attention. They want it, as it is better than no attention.
4 Surprise! Surprise!
Tell me, who doesn’t like surprises? Parents still love it, and kids are addicted to it. Nothing lightens a heart more than a sudden, out-of-the-blue surprise outing, unscheduled family time, or even a simple act of playing a board game when the kid’s schedule says it’s study time! It will draw a lasting memory in every child’s mind, engraving the conviction that “my parents are sensitive to my needs and feelings”.
5 Don’t be a know-it-all
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It’s easy to assume that if you like to go on road trips, or eat in fancy restaurants, your kids would like it too. But, that’s not necessarily true! Take off your work uniform, leave the baggage and gadgets behind, and have fun with your kids! That’s what most adults overlook – to live and savour the happiest of moments, the family moment.