FAM­ILY TIME: WHAT KIDS WANT

Herworld (Malaysia) - - KIDS TAKEOVER -

I en­joy my fam­ily time – build­ing tents, run­ning around the house, and most im­por­tantly, just be­ing to­gether with my fam­ily. It helps to build up my con­fi­dence and it teaches me to look for pos­i­tive at­ten­tion. Par­ents may as­sume that fam­ily time is go­ing out some­where, watch­ing TV or just eat­ing out­side. But, do you re­alise that you’re not the only one with ideas? Here are some tips for suc­cess­ful fam­ily time, from a child’s point of view.

1 Lis­ten to their silly sto­ries

This builds up their con­fi­dence, and helps them speak clearly. It also helps with school – when they give speeches or want to share ideas. It in­spires cre­ativ­ity too, as your child has to think and put ideas to­gether into a story. They will get to ex­press their feel­ings and tell you what’s im­por­tant to them. Isn’t that helpful? You get feed­back from your child and you can im­prove, or choose to stay that way!

2 Live (and play) in the mo­ment

The time when you’re on your phone and your kid is all alone is go­ing to pass and never come back. If you spend time be­ing silly, your kid will al­ways re­mem­ber it clearly. How­ever, if you don’t spend time to­gether, they may al­ways re­mem­ber the mo­ment when they were alone. You can call it a mini va­ca­tion when you spend more time with your kids and just joke around! Ev­ery­one spends so much time be­ing se­ri­ous – some­times, we need a break!

3 Let them lead

If they take the lead in games, they will learn to think in­de­pen­dently, so if they have to lead in the fu­ture, they’ll have a rough idea on how to do so. It teaches them to ex­plain in­struc­tions and com­mu­ni­cate well with oth­ers. Play­ing games will also de­crease at­ten­tion-seek­ing be­hav­iour, as you are pay­ing at­ten­tion to them. Some chil­dren would throw things around and shout a lot – this gets them neg­a­tive at­ten­tion. They want it, as it is bet­ter than no at­ten­tion.

4 Sur­prise! Sur­prise!

Tell me, who doesn’t like sur­prises? Par­ents still love it, and kids are ad­dicted to it. Noth­ing light­ens a heart more than a sud­den, out-of-the-blue sur­prise out­ing, un­sched­uled fam­ily time, or even a sim­ple act of play­ing a board game when the kid’s sched­ule says it’s study time! It will draw a last­ing mem­ory in ev­ery child’s mind, en­grav­ing the con­vic­tion that “my par­ents are sen­si­tive to my needs and feel­ings”.

5 Don’t be a know-it-all

Do you re­ally know what your kids want to do as a fam­ily? Find out what kid ed­i­tor Ser­ena Zara has to say about it!

It’s easy to as­sume that if you like to go on road trips, or eat in fancy restau­rants, your kids would like it too. But, that’s not nec­es­sar­ily true! Take off your work uni­form, leave the bag­gage and gad­gets be­hind, and have fun with your kids! That’s what most adults over­look – to live and savour the hap­pi­est of mo­ments, the fam­ily mo­ment.

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