Be a more at­ten­tive spouse

HWM (Malaysia) - - FEATURE -

If you think in­fi­delity is the num­ber one rea­son be­hind di­vorces, you are in for a shock. Ac­cord­ing to stud­ies on the rea­sons why mar­riages fail, a stag­ger­ing 73 per­cent said that the lack of com­mit­ment was the main rea­son their mar­riage didn’t work. Of th­ese, 62 per­cent said that they wished their spouse had put in more ef­fort, while a fur­ther 20 per­cent said they wished that they, them­selves, had worked harder too.

Stay­ing com­mit­ted isn’t nec­es­sar­ily hard too, some­times all it takes is some­thing as sim­ple as re­call­ing im­por­tant dates and an­niver­saries, plan­ning for trips, and me­nial tasks like re­mem­ber­ing to take the trash out.

For­tu­nately, tech­nol­ogy can help with all of th­ese. Hav­ing a shared Google or Ap­ple cal­en­dar can help save a lot of headaches when it comes to re­mem­ber­ing im­por­tant dates and ap­point­ments. If any of you should have a new ap­point­ment, sim­ply put it into the cal­en­dar and your spouse will be au­to­mat­i­cally no­ti­fied.

And with in­tel­li­gent per­sonal as­sis­tants like Google Now and Siri now be­ing “al­ways on”, it has never been eas­ier to cre­ate re­minders. When­ever you want to put some­thing off for later, like wash­ing the dishes or iron­ing the clothes for ex­am­ple, sim­ply ut­ter “Hey Siri” for iOS devices or “Ok Google” for An­droid devices to start record­ing your re­minder.

An­other use­ful tool is an app called Cou­ple. As its name sug­gest, it’s a so­cial me­dia plat­form for just you and your sig­nif­i­cant other. In Cou­ple, cou­ples can chat, post up­dates, share lo­ca­tions, share to-do lists, sketch, and send pho­tos that will dis­ap­pear af­ter a fixed time and more. There’s even a fea­ture called Thum­bKiss, where cou­ples can press on their phone screens si­mul­ta­ne­ously to trig­ger a vi­bra­tion, kind of like a vir­tual kiss.

STAY­ING COM­MIT­TED ISN’T NEC­ES­SAR­ILY HARD TOO, SOME­TIMES ALL IT TAKES IS SOME­THING AS SIM­PLE AS RE­CALL­ING IM­POR­TANT DATES AND AN­NIVER­SARIES.

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