How many questions do you think we ask and answer in any given day? Would you believe psychologists and psychiatrists have studied this? On average, we ask and answer nearly 35,000 questions each and every day. Thanks to our mobile devices, this is up abo
Sarah J. Kaelberer tells us how by asking the right question you can shape a life and help your clients.
So many questions we’re bombarded with are so insignificant, but some of them — the significant ones — led us to where we are today. These are the ones where you say, “If it hadn’t been for this, then I wouldn’t be where I am today.” We all have a story. I’m going to share with you three questions that got me to where I am today.
1. Who do you want to live with?
I will never forget this question. Just shy of 12 years old, I sat across a big wooden desk from a judge. He looked over his glasses at me and said, “Sarah Jane Delaney, who do you want to live with, your mom or your dad?” Back in those days, children of divorce had a say in who they lived with. In my little voice, I squeaked up at him, “My dad.” He closed the folder and put it on the corner of the desk. It was done! Just about a month earlier, my oldest sister had sat the seven of us kids down and explained that our parents were getting divorced. She suggested we all stay together, and we agreed to live with Mom. We would be better taken care of under her care because, at the time, my dad was deep in the grips of alcoholism. But when I was asked, even though I knew I was supposed to say my mom, my little mind just could not reconcile how my dad was going to make it without anyone. So I said, “My dad.” The day after Thanksgiving, we packed our things and moved out of the family home. Once in the new rental house, I fell into the role of running the house, from banking, groceries and regular household chores. Every Sunday night, I would write out all the checks and leave them on the table for dad to sign. I’d write out the checks for the rent, the utilities, the credit card and any other bill that needed to be paid. This experience taught me the organisational skills and the financial acuity I now