I’m going on a vacation with this girl I just met. We agreed to spend time with each other until she returns home that’s in a different country. What do I do if I catch feelings?
Well, this also depends on the girl! If you develop feelings, you’re left with two choices: take action, or not. If you pick the former, you need to decide how to make it work (assuming she wants this too). If you don’t, or the feeling’s not mutual, then you’ll have to deal. But it’s okay – there are plenty of other fish in the sea that you go holidaying with.
I met my girlfriend when I went to study in America, and we’re still in a stable long-distance relationship three years later. But then, after I came back, I started talking with my neighbour, which has now grown into a relationship. I still love my girlfriend, and everyone knows I’m still with her. But I want both girls, and I can’t make up my mind about who to be with. Please advise. (PS. they don’t know about each other.)
– GABRIEL I’m gonna give it to you straight: don’t flatter yourself. You’re being selfish and not being fair to either of these women. You say you know your girlfriend is the one for you and that you’re “in a stable long-distance relationship”. Newsflash – this is not what a stable relationship looks like! It’s only stable because they don’t know about each other, and if they did, shit’s likely gonna hit the fan. It’s time to end the deceit. Make a decision, and do the right thing by these women. They deserve better than this.
My girlfriend stopped hanging out with her guy friends because of my envy. But I still hang out with my girl friends, and she doesn’t stop me from doing so. Could she be unhappy and not tell me about it?
– KAMARUL First things first: why are you imposing these double standards on your girlfriend? Examine the source of your envy, and find it within yourself to trust her to see her friends, regardless of gender, just like she does you. Secondly, if she isn’t communicating with you, and you sense that she’s unhappy, this is a red flag. Everybody needs an outlet; help her find hers.
There’s a girl that’s interested in me, but I’m not comfortable that we share the same surname. Is that weird?
– BENJAMIN You’re thinking waaaaay further ahead than the current situation demands. You say she’s interested in you, but are you interested in her? If not, then there’s no problem! If you are, then it depends how uncomfortable you are. If you really like her but you’re really concerned, and if it comes down to it, there’s always genetic testing available.
I’m a new entrepreneur and work’s been mad, but most of my dates just don’t understand why I’m always so busy. How do I communicate this?
– JAZLY I’m not going to lie: dating is going to be tough for a guy like you. Not because you’re unlikeable, but because so much of your time is occupied by your business. That’s perfectly fine – admirable, even. You will just need to find a girl who’s willing to see past that and appreciate the limited time you do have together. And once you do, the time you spend together will be even sweeter. Don’t give up on love just yet, tiger.