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We keep asking, and women keep telling us: more foreplay. In our survey, it beat out oral, touching, kink, and dirty talk as their prime request. Women need foreplay for the arousal that leads to desire, says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a sex counselor and the author of She Comes First. His female clients also complain about a limited sex menu, so foreplay’s variety (all that kissing, rubbing, talking, stroking) can work wonders. Even hot shows like
The Girlfriend Experience or Masters of Sex can help. “Humans can get very aroused without any physical touch,” he says. Be showered and ready before you dim the bedroom lights and press play. Then tell her she’s hotter than the actress in the show.
34% of women want more foreplay, the number one thing they want more of in bed. Number two: touching during sex (22%). Number three: light bondage.