Spread love through par­ent­ing

New Straits Times - - Pulse | Living -

MALAYSIA is a unique coun­try and be­ing a par­ent here comes with its own unique chal­lenges. It’s all due to the dif­fer­ent cul­tures, races and re­li­gions liv­ing to­gether.

Most of the time, we blend very well to­gether with mu­tual un­der­stand­ing, tol­er­ance and re­spect.

Re­cently, there was a fra­cas in Jo­hor Baru where a mo­torist was at­tacked by a mob af­ter he honked in­ces­santly dur­ing a Fri­day prayer ses­sion at a nearby mosque. Ap­par­ently, his car was blocked by other cars parked near the mosque area.

This is a per­fect ex­am­ple of when com­mon sense, tol­er­ance and un­der­stand­ing are much needed.

First and fore­most, we must un­der­stand that when we block other road users, they’ll get mad. It’s also not fair to those who get caught in the traf­fic jam. It’s good prac­tice to al­ways al­low mo­torists some space to ma­noeu­vre if you in­tend to dou­ble park.

Mean­while, in­ces­sant honk­ing will un­doubt­edly an­noy peo­ple. The driver should have been more con­sid­er­ate, see­ing there was a prayer in ses­sion. His ac­tions re­flected in­tol­er­ance. He should have an­tic­i­pated the event, un­less this was the first time he was ex­pe­ri­enc­ing a Fri­day prayer event in that neigh­bour­hood.

Al­most sim­i­lar sce­nar­ios can be seen around other re­li­gious sites and pro­ces­sions but we don’t see road users be­ing lib­eral with their honk­ing.

The same goes when one has to ma­noeu­vre one’s way out dur­ing school peak hours. As Malaysians, we should be sen­si­tive to these sit­u­a­tions and act ac­cord­ingly to avoid un­nec­es­sary con­flicts.

Hav­ing said that, at­tack­ing an­other per­son, an­i­mals or even prop­erty is def­i­nitely wrong, no mat­ter what the jus­ti­fi­ca­tion.

Yes, blam­ing and point­ing fin­gers may feel good for the time be­ing but it’ll just cre­ate an­i­mos­ity in the long term. Let’s un­der­stand each other and make life bet­ter.

Let’s do some­thing about these sit­u­a­tions that are within our con­trol. For ex­am­ple, try avoid­ing mosque ar­eas on a Fri­day or be pa­tient if you are caught in a jam near other re­li­gious es­tab­lish­ments.

For­tu­nately, the JB case had a pos­i­tive

out­come when the mosque’s com­mit­tee met up with the res­i­dents’ as­so­ci­a­tion. Mis­un­der­stand­ings were quickly re­solved and har­mony re­stored.

This proves that we do have it in­side all of us to be nice to each other. Life’s too short to waste time on triv­i­al­i­ties like these.

As par­ents, we have an op­por­tu­nity to ed­u­cate our chil­dren on these mat­ters

too. Talk to them about cul­tural, racial and re­li­gious is­sues and see what their re­sponses are.

If they show a high level of un­der­stand­ing, then con­grat­u­late your­self for hav­ing been a pos­i­tive par­ent. Oth­er­wise, you may have a long way to go. But don’t give up. Con­tinue to spread love in­stead of neg­a­tiv­ity. Let’s stop the cy­cle from be­com­ing more vi­cious.

As Malaysians, we must show more tol­er­ance, un­der­stand­ing and re­spect to peo­ple of other cul­tures and re­li­gions.

SMART PAR­ENT­ING

ZAID MO­HAMAD

COACHES AND TRAINS PAR­ENTS TO EX­PE­RI­ENCE HAP­PIER HOMES AND MORE PRO­DUC­TIVE WORK­PLACES. REACH HIM AT ZAID@ SMARTPARENTS.

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