THE SEX YOU WANT
NEXT TIME things are heating up between you and your guy, try getting on top, suggests Susan Oakley, M.D., instructor of female pelvic medicine and reconstructive surgery at Cincinnati’s Good Samaritan Hospital. In a study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, she reported that, compared to women who were typically able to climax during sex, those who had trouble tended to have clitorises that were farther away from
58 Number of times married couples have sex annually. The average person gets it on 85 times a year.
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the vaginal opening. Oakley calls the length of tissue between these two areas the “C spot,” and explains that the shorter it is, the more pressure the penis can put on it to indirectly stimulate the clitoris, making orgasm easier. When it’s longer, the nerve-packed organ doesn’t receive this contact—and that’s where trying a new position comes in. “Women with a longer C spot can put more direct pressure on the clitoris by being on top, or by getting on all fours and using a hand or vibrator for added stimulation,” explains Oakley. (Women with longer C spots tended to prefer the missionary position.)
Oakley also recommends asking your ob-gyn about Eros Therapy ($179 or RM580, with an Rx), an FDA-approved clitoral stimulator. Using the handheld device for three to five minutes daily improves blood flow to the tissue, enhancing sensitivity and making orgasm during sex easier. That said, it’s not a cause for concern if you don’t reach your peak via penetration. “There’s no reason women
must climax during vaginal intercourse,” Oakley notes. Instead, have your partner get you off during foreplay, she says. “Taking the stress off the ‘main event’ may actually make sex more pleasurable.”
GET ON TOP FOR EXPLOSIVE ACTION!