Of course you want to make sure he’s enjoying himself. But don’t forget you. “By far, the best predictor of how often a woman orgasms is how often she receives oral sex,” Frederick says. It creates a sense of closeness that can take things to the next level—and yet, just half of all couples say it’s a regular part of their routine. “It can be even more intimate than having sex, and it also makes the woman feel desired because her partner is focused on pleasuring her,” Frederick says.