Too young for her
IAM 16, and I have a crush on my 18-year-old friend. I like her, and she knows it. But one of my friends told me that she has told him that she doesn’t want to date someone younger than her. But I really wish I could be with her always because I like how serious she is about her studies. I also think that being with her would be good for me because she could spur me to study harder. I’d really appreciate some advice on how to convince her to consider going out with me even though I am younger than her. — Crushed
I think you are putting the cart before the horse. Slow down. It’s fine that you have a crush on this girl but being pushy is not going to help you. She has sent a ‘message’ to you through others that she’s not interested in dating someone younger.
That doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to give up. The point is that you don’t really know her. Having a crush on someone is very different from having a relationship with them.
A crush feels like a high, but it is based on a ‘fantasy’ rather than reality. So, if you want to pursue her, start by getting to know her as a friend.
In our society today, it is pretty common to find girls in relations with younger guys. It all boils down to the maturity of the boy and how the girl can accept being with someone younger.
If you can show her you’re a mature individual, and not a typical 16 year old teenage boy, then you could perhaps give it a go and try talking to her and letting her know how you feel.
It is difficult to change someone else’s mind once they are set on something, but try letting her get to know you better. Let fate and nature take its course. The Star does not give any warranty on accuracy, completeness, usefulness, fitness for
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