I’M 19 and I have not been dating because I wanted to concentrate on my studies. But recently, I went to a carnival and met a girl, A, there. On the last day, I decided to ask A for her telephone number but she left before I could do so.
But I remembered that my friend B goes to the same school as A, and asked her for A’s telephone number. B told me that A had asked her for my telephone number too. But three days later, B told me that A doesn’t want to give her telephone number because she is already engaged. So I asked B why did A ask for my number if she was already engaged?
I was so confused because it was the first time I have strong feelings for someone. I am trying to forget her but I can’t seem to do that. Must I find someone to replace A? — Confused
It sounds like A may be attracted to you, and acted on impulse when she asked for your number but she now feels guilty. Don’t spend any more time wondering about this situation.
She is engaged, and it would not be right for you to come into her life right now even if she may be interested. Why? Because this can get very complicated. If she is unsure about her engagement, then that’s her problem to sort out.
Until then, my advice is stay out of the situation. If you are looking for someone, focus on unattached women.
It is most unfortunate that the first girl you are attracted to is unavailable. A is engaged, and there is nothing you should or can do about that. If you feel you really need to pursue this matter and clear the ambiguities you have, then perhaps you could talk to A.
In all honesty, you barely know this girl. And having said that, you should move on and not look back. You should start seeing other people, hang out with your friends and meet new ones. Fill up your hours with things that make you feel better.