First date

Has your child shown an in­ter­est in dat­ing?

The Star Malaysia - Star2 - - R.AGE -

HAS your child started to show an in­ter­est in the op­po­site sex? Do you dread the day when you have to al­low your child to go out on a first date?

Lim Mee-Gaik, a pro­fes­sor at Park Uni­ver­sity in San An­to­nio, Texas, who has worked in mar­riage and fam­ily coun­selling, calls dat­ing a pro­gres­sive evolve­ment.

“It gen­er­ally starts with friend­ships and as the re­la­tion­ship builds, in­di­vid­u­als tend to show a spe­cial in­ter­est for a spe­cific per­son.

“It is im­por­tant for teens to be ex­posed to a wide va­ri­ety of friends. This en­ables them to in­ter­act with peo­ple from all walks of life. It also en­ables them to be with in­di­vid­u­als who have sim­i­lar in­ter­ests and se­lect dates with de­sir­able char­ac­ter traits.

“One of the com­mon signs of ‘ dat­ing readi­ness’ is when they start be­ing at­ten­tive to in­di­vid­u­als of the other gen­der. Vast amounts of time, en­ergy, and con­ver­sa­tions with friends are fo­cused on the party of in­ter­est. A great deal of plan­ning is in­volved in be­ing in the same vicin­ity as the party of in­ter­est,” she says.

Par­ents should not panic nor should they be in­dif­fer­ent to it. ParenThots has tips to help par­ents faced with the dat­ing chal­lenge.

Shar­ing tips

What’s a par­ent to do when their child doesn’t want to talk to them? Three moth­ers share their opin­ion on the mat­ter. One says it’s best to give the child time and space; an­other says re­li­gious teach­ings help; and a third says chil­dren al­ways open up at din­ner time.

Book re­views

Author/Il­lus­tra­tor Mo­hamad Salmi has done an ad­mirable job with the Asian Leg­ends se­ries. These pic­ture books of­fer some fa­mous Malaysian and Sin­ga­porean tales.

Re­search con­firms that boys are be­ing left be­hind ev­ery step of the way as soon as they start school­ing. The Minds Of Boys – Sav­ing Our Sons From Fall­ing Be­hind In School And Life teaches par­ents how to help boys.

DVD re­view

What’s not to love about How To Train Your Dragon? It’s got dragons, tam­ing an­i­mals, prov­ing your­self to your fa­ther ... It will ap­peal to the whole fam­ily.

Hol­i­day gift guide

If you’re look­ing for gift ideas, then go to ParenThots and click on the Hol­i­day Gift Guide. It of­fers gift ideas for par­ents and chil­dren and the price cap is RM100.


Trudy & Teddy is giv­ing ParenThots’ read­ers a chance to win some ex­cit­ing prizes in the Dress Up Your Baby With Trudy & Teddy Con­test. The top prize is RM500 worth of Trudy & Teddy prod­ucts.


This week’s eVouch­ers are from Fit­ness Con­cept, Ai Kids Sta­tion,, Dis­cov­ery House, ENG Hand­made Craft, Dish Deli, Gourmet Goo, Soda Kids, Safe Toys, Fu­sion Academy of Per­form­ing Arts Malaysia and Ham­mam.


Young love: ParenThots pro­vides some tips on how to deal with dat­ing teens.

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