Long live love
When love works, it is most wonderful.
FOR young couple Aiqa Halim and Harith Ridzuan, each day is a learning process. Balancing their jobs and caring for their daughter is challenging enough, but they are also determined to keep the flame burning in their marriage.
Aiqa and Harith married young – she was only 22 then and he was 24 – and knew from the start they had to go into marriage with their eyes wide open. They were aware of the sacrifices they’d need to make to juggle new responsibilities, but they also believed in each other.
“We know what we are both like, as well as each other’s habits. Along the way, we have picked up some new habits too, whether good or bad.
“But when you have the yearning to improve yourself and change for the better, especially for your significant other, it truly opens your eyes and makes you realise what a relationship is and what a marriage is built on,” says Harith, who has been married for four years.
The highlight in their marriage is the birth of their daughter Hanna two years ago.
“Having Hanna has made our family unit closer. She easily puts a smile on our faces every time she enters the room,” says Aiqa.
It’s not easy shouldering the responsibilities that come with marriage and parenthood, but Aiqa and Harith say they have always looked to their parents as role models.
“From juggling work, being parents and always keeping the flame alive in our marriage, we have taken a pointer or two from our wise elders.
“It was their faith that gave us the confidence to build a family of our own,” relates Aiqa. Having good role models helped them envision what their future would look like.
Their supportive extended family network has been crucial as they navigated through their everyday challenges.
“We have been really blessed with an amazing support system in the form of our parents. While some couples might look at it as an intrusion, building a relationship with my in-laws has never been an issue. They truly play a huge role in our lives, not just as doting parents but as loving grandparents to our child.
“Hence, much like our elders, we understand the need to work, earn and provide for the family.
“With their guidance, we have learned how to cope and to always be prepared financially, spiritually and emotionally to deal with what may come,” says the young mother.
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Most precious: aiqa Halim and her husband Harith ridzuan are committed to giving their two-yearold daughter Hanna a happy home.