Still in love
EVEN after 41 years of being married to each other, retiree K. Selvaratnam can still easily make his wife, Rajini Ponnurajah giggle like a schoolgirl. He still teases her, and cracks jokes for her, and she still finds his silly antics hilarious. They genuinely enjoy each other’s company, and are openly affectionate with one another. They don’t do romantic candlelit dinners or bouquets of roses, but have built their loving relationship on shared responsibilities.
The couple who brought up three daughters say they have simply always been there for each other, supporting one another through the hard times.
Selvaratnam, 72, also shares how he strongly believes in talking openly with his wife, and finding the root cause of problems together.
“Throughout our marriage, whenever we face any issues, we solve them by communicating and discussing them openly together.
“One of the challenges we faced as a married couple was when we decided to buy our first property. Interest rates were high and my wife understood the need for me to work longer hours. She lent a helping hand by managing our finances wisely,” he says taking pride in his wife’s financial savvy.
Their advice to newlyweds or those in relationships is to understand and know their partner well.
“Share your needs, wants and aspirations with your partners in order to ensure harmony in the household,” says Rajini, 64.
They also believe in resolving their issues without involving others to avoid further conflicts. “As a couple, attempt a clear resolution. No matter how bleak it may look like today, there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel,” says Selvaratnam.
The Selvaratnams have been married for over 40 years, and say their secret is to always be supportive of each other.
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