Be your own person
Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit. – E.E. Cummings
WOULD you consider yourself a confident kid? Regardless if it involves tying your own shoe laces, going to school or kindergarten for the first time, or even brushing your teeth, we need confidence to bravely take on new challenges in life. Having self-confidence means believing in ourselves, and it gives us a sense of competence.
Parenting website kidshealth.org reports that a healthy self-esteem is like a child’s armour against the challenges of the world. Kids who know their strengths and weaknesses, and feel good about themselves seem to have an easier time handling conflicts and resisting negative pressures. They tend to smile more readily and enjoy life. These kids are realistic and generally optimistic.
However, children who lack self-confidence may consider challenges to be a source of frustration. They are often shy, timid and may become passive and withdrawn. It is important to have self-confidence and positive self-esteem as they help us to appreciate our self-worth, take responsibility for our actions, and show respect and care for others.
According to caringforkids.cps.ca, positive self-esteem helps children to have courage to be their own person, believe in their own values, make healthier choices and feel confident saying “no” to dangerous activities.
Recently, we asked Starchild readers to share a few pointers on how to build self-confidence. Let’s hear what they have to say. Five-year-old Danielle Ling Xi
Yuan writes: “Children should make many friends and play together. Take part in drawing and colouring contests. Sing and dance for joy in a concert. We must look and smile at the person to whom we talk to. Join in group activities to become brave and less shy.”
“We must keep practising if we want to build confidence. I overcame my fear of water by practising swimming regularly,” writes
Vysnawy Thiagarajan, 10. “Confidence is very important for
kids. It is gained gradually through mixing with friends and having a sense of achievement. My mummy always encourages me to join storytelling, drama and music competitions to help me gain confidence. Now, I love to perform and do not have stage fright,” writes Bhuvenraj
Ganesh, eight. – Compiled by Sheela Chandran
With confidence, you have won before you started.
– Marcus Garvey
ITEM: If you are allowed to keep a pet fish, which breed would you chose? A gold fish, fighting fish, arowana, carp or stringray? Why would you pick this particular breed? Share some fascinating facts about your favourite type of fish. Include a drawing, too.
All letters must carry your full name, age (open to children aged 12 and below only), gender, e-mail, phone contact and address. Don’t forget to write your name behind the drawing and the topic, My Pet Fish, in a corner of the envelope.
Please do not cellotape or staple pieces of paper to your drawing. All letters must reach us by
Jan 4, 2014. Send your letters to: Starchild, c/o Star2 Star Publications (M) Bhd Menara Star, 15, Jalan 16/11 46350 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Vysnawy Thiagarajan, 10
danielle Ling Xi yuan, 5
bhuvenraj Ganesh, 8