Fill your life with friends

The Star Malaysia - Star2 - - BODY, MIND & SOUL - By ELLEN WHYTE

LOOK­ING at your life this Valen­tine’s Day and think­ing you could do with a lit­tle more friend­ship in your life? Check out th­ese tips.

Con­nect

Chas­ing dol­lars all day is ex­haust­ing and there will be times when you just want to be home by your­self, eat­ing some­thing out of a packet in front of some­thing to­tally mean­ing­less on tele­vi­sion. That’s fine but if you don’t see any­one, you’ll soon find your­self alone. So make a date ev­ery week for the next month to meet a bunch of friends for lunch, or have them around for a potluck.

Plan for fun

There’s noth­ing so at­trac­tive as laugh­ter so think of some­thing you know you love and in­vite three or five peo­ple you haven’t seen in a while to join you: have a ten­nis cham­pi­onship af­ter­noon, go kayak­ing or see a funny Make a date ev­ery week to meet a bunch of friends. film to­gether. Laugh­ter will help you all bond.

Bring a pal par­ties

If you have a very nar­row cir­cle, or­gan­ise a ca­sual lunch or tea party where you in­vite just two or three peo­ple and ask them to bring one friend each. A good way to do this is to run a theme: peo­ple who love vam­pire films to come to an all-black lunch or pet lovers to join in an af­ter­noon of furry-feath­ery-finny chat over a veg­e­tar­ian cream tea.

Learn pub­lic speak­ing

If shy­ness is your main bar­rier to cre­at­ing a so­cial cir­cle, you can go for self-assertive­ness train­ing. If you don’t have such a ser­vice near you, look up in­ter­net re­sources and get your best (con­fi­dent) pal to help you. You might also try join­ing a group like the toast­mas­ters or a de­bate team be­cause stand­ing up in pub­lic, speak­ing on a pre­pared sub­ject will trans­late into lots of self-con­fi­dence.

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