Help­ing chil­dren to open up

The Star Malaysia - Star2 - - Bright Kids -

OF­TEN­TIMES, chil­dren are afraid to ap­proach adults about be­ing bul­lied due to fear of their com­plaints be­ing dis­be­lieved or not taken se­ri­ously.

It is a com­mon habit to start ques­tion­ing vic­tims for things they might have done to pro­voke the bul­lies into act­ing the way they did, but the bul­lies are re­spon­si­ble for their own ac­tions and should be held ac­count­able.

In ad­di­tion, young bully vic­tims are of­ten in­ca­pable of com­mu­ni­cat­ing their trou­bles to their guardians sim­ply be­cause they do not com­pre­hend what is hap­pen­ing to them, and this could per­sist into their teenage and adult years.

Guardians need to un­der­stand that younger chil­dren are still dis­cov­er­ing neg­a­tive emo­tions and need guid­ance to de­velop and un­der­stand them.

How vic­tim blam­ing oc­curs

Sec­ond-guess­ing the vic­tim’s claims Sym­pa­this­ing with the bully Be­ing overly ag­gres­sive in han­dling the mat­ter so the vic­tim does not feel com­fort­able.

Vic­tim-blam­ing com­ments

“What did you do?”

“They must have had a rea­son.” “Did you say any­thing back?” “You need to be braver.” “Just fight back.”

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