IT’S in the culture, Madam Mangai Balasegaram (“If This Isn’t A Call To Action...”, Human Writes, June 25).
Bullying cruelty is built into the culture. When something or someone is mandated to be divine, then vis-a-vis that thing or person, you are nothing, an absolute cipher.
To a woman, her husband is god – at one time she was even expected to climb into her husband’s funeral pyre. To a worker, his work is god, so he will not aspire to climb up the caste ladder. In the family, parents are gods, and the children exist as adjuncts to their divine parents. Their existence is for the glorification of their parents. Parents do not have to make any attempt to understand or reach out to their children.
Parents have low self esteem because their parents had treated them with contempt. So they treat their children with contempt.
Parents bully their children, the older children bully their younger siblings. And when they go out into the wider world, anyone showing any kind of weakness is like red meat to a carnivore. Hence the bullying, the gangsterism, the crimes.
Stop blaming anyone else. It is, simply, in the culture, a culture that can produce monsters.
Murugan Johor Baru