The prevalence of anger issues and depression today, according to Lina is because we are not taught to handle emotions effectively. “We – even our parents and grandparents – were brought up without skills on how to understand emotions, and even less so on how to handle them effectively. Most parents are winging it on what they themselves have experienced while they were growing up. In fact, we were told from young that being emotional is bad. If you walk around the mall, for example, you can see this very clearly. If a child gets upset and cry, what do most parents do? Generally they do two things, first is to hush them up by scolding them or even beating them. Second, they bribe the child by giving them ice cream, candy or toys. All these are suppression and distraction. The core emotion that causes the upset feelings are not resolved and those emotions starts to fester. In a sense, this is a generational disease.”
With more people suffering from emotional issues in the world today, it is essential for us to acknowledge our feelings especially the negatives ones. “It is very important to know how to handle emotions effectively, not just anger. And if anyone has any unresolved emotional issues, please do reach out for help as it does not only affect your own self but also those around you.”
Lina Esa Öberg has a LLB (Hons) and practised law for 17 years. During her practice, she realised that there are many people who are stressed and unhappy. She noticed it even among her friends and family, realising that there is a general unhappiness everywhere. In 2005, after an incident that shook her to the core, it made her interested in her own emotional state, psychology and counselling. She obtained a diploma in hypnotherapy in early 2010 via the USA NGH certification programme and practises emotional therapy full time at The Violet Flame KL.