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Dear Mum & Dad, Our kids are incredibly jealous of each other; one is 13 and the other is eight. Both of them are bright, gifted kids but they have very different interests. Our 13-year-old is academically minded while the younger is sporty. We try to support them equally but one is always upset that we value the other’s talents more. What can we do to bring harmony to our home? Stuck in the middle with two in Johor.
Mum: I feel your pain. My kids are a little younger but they can be very sensitive about being considered favourites. Just carry on being as fair as possible and reassure them regularly that you love them both for many different reasons but absolutely equally. It will take time, but eventually (hopefully!), it will pass.
Dad: Yes, you need to reassure them openly. You can also let each know the love you have for them is limitless and until infinity so no one can be a favourite. That will confuse them long enough that you can move on to dealing with the next problem.