Meet the neighbours
We spoke to Racheal Kwacz about mothering and living with her ‘little big girl’ Ella
a parenting coach and mama tribe writer spoke to Douglas Elliot about being a mum to two-year-old Ella. Find out more about her popular workshops at fb.com/rachealkwaczworkshops.
Hi Racheal, can you introduce us to your family?
Hello, nice to meet you. There’s me, Racheal; my husband, Joseph; and our little big girl, Ella Grace who is two-years- old (but thinks she’s eight!)
Tell us a little about Ella.
She’s a goofball! She’s just really started talking and it’s hilarious listening to what might come out of her mouth. She’s 99 percent joy and giggles all the time, inquisitive, independent, observant and loves fire trucks, airplanes, tutus, and accessories like fancy Bowerhaus jewellery!
Is it true that one of her first few words were ‘Starbucks’?
Yes! Her special treat is getting to order her own babycino and paying with her own ‘card’!
Do you think your world view has changed after having Ella?
I think the biggest change for me was as a woman and the way I looked at the world and myself. I knew that as a mama to a little girl, her understanding and values of herself would come from me and I wanted to teach her to know her worth, believe in herself, love her jiggles, be unafraid to make mistakes, stand up and show up, but to also be kind to herself.
Where were you before coming to Malaysia? What made you choose to raise a family here?
We moved from Springfield, Missouri to Malaysia to have babies! I wanted our children to have a sense of community the way I grew up, to have cousins and aunties randomly dropping by and loving them the only way family and best friends can. I wanted her to know what it’s like to go for an illegal ice cream with grandpa way past your bedtime, the kampung-tribe type of love that teaches values, culture, festivals and fun!
You organise workshops and classes frequently. Does Ella help in them?
She helps me by being my guinea pig. A lot of what I teach in my parenting workshops truly comes from being a parent. I really believe in what I teach and only endorse products I would give her; because with all the degrees and ‘work’ experience that I have, there’s nothing like real practical solutions that come from a place of being a mama first, a parent coach second.