CUT THE CORD
Confessing:So freeing!Unless you’ re the person who just inheriteda truth bomb( say, a pal who cops to cheating on her boyfriend... who’ s alsoyour friend ). Secret-passingcan feel a lot like a health-sapping game of telephone, in which the the receiver often gets the shaft. Research suggests traumatic family secrets can dealykids’ development, keeping them from mentally progressing on schedule. For adults, the stress of taking on someone else's confidential info can lead to loss of sleep. headaches and upset stomaches. headaches and upset stomaches.
Sowhat to do if a bud dump a giant whaaa ?! on you? Stopthe cycle by unloadingon a neutral third party, such as a therapistor clergy member or even the sites listed above. If. you pinky-swore not to tell another soul, there still hope: Simply venting to a noninvolved person (heart you, mum!) thatyou feel bur dedb ya fri ed’s secret—wit ho us a ring any specific details—can all but erase any negative symptoms, says psychologist Evan Imber-Black, PhD, author of The The Secret Life of Families.