Ded­i­cated work­ing mother CW con­ceived and gave birth for the first time in her mid-40s. She shares her ex­pe­ri­ence

Women's Weekly (Malaysia) - - INSPIRE -

CW and her hus­band had been try­ing to have a baby on and off for the past 10 years, but it took her longer to con­ceive than they had ex­pected. She shares that hav­ing a baby was not im­por­tant at first but over time, it took on a big­ger sig­nif­i­cance.

So the cou­ple did the next best thing, which was to keep them­selves well in­formed and meet­ing med­i­cal pro­fes­sion­als. “Af­ter ca­su­ally try­ing for about five years, we de­cided to get se­ri­ous and had med­i­cal checks done by one of the lead­ing fertility doc­tors in PJ. Sperm count was great so doc­tor asked me to do a la­paroscopy to rule out any cyst or other is­sues.”

The pro­ce­dure seemed pretty in­va­sive to CW that she de­cided not to do it for the time be­ing. She then had a work op­por­tu­nity over­seas and soon mi­grated where her ca­reer took over and the cou­ple for­got about hav­ing a baby un­til a few years later.

“Dur­ing this time we went to an­other fertility spe­cial­ist and em­barked on a course of hor­mones and IUI, but still saw no pos­i­tive re­sults. When we re­turned to KL, we met an­other spe­cial­ist who told us not to waste any more time – so we went for IVF. ”

The first at­tempt failed and CW was left trau­ma­tised. How­ever, af­ter tak­ing a break, chang­ing doc­tors and pro­to­cols, the cou­ple tried again and was suc­cess­ful. “I was happy, so ec­static when I found out that I was preg­nant! We waited un­til af­ter 12 weeks for a blood test to check for any abonor­mal­i­ties and also to de­ter­mine the gen­der. Once we got the all-clear we shared the news.”

Does she think that no age is too old to have ba­bies? “Yes and no. Though I had Isaac in my 40s, I was quite fit and in good shape, phys­i­cally and emo­tion­ally. The sleep­less nights, phys­i­cal ex­er­tions of car­ry­ing a child and chas­ing him around can be tax­ing. Only do it if you have the phys­i­cal and emo­tional fit­ness. Hav­ing fi­nan­cial flex­i­bil­ity helps too, so you can pay for help and kids’ stuff is su­per-ex­pen­sive!”

CW had her son Isaac (now three years old) at age 45.

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