How to Deal with a Broken Heart
A breakup can be incredibly painful. Discover some ways to ease the pain and find happiness again
It can really turn your world upside down if your beloved one breaks up with you. You lose your handhold and you cannot believe you will ever be happy without him or her. Nevertheless this feeling will pass by after some time. In this article I will give some suggestions to overcome this period of grief.
Accept the fact that your brain is chemically out of balance
and that it needs time to recover. Your brain plays games with you and that is why you can suddenly have panic attacks. These moments will pass by and they will become less often in time.
Break off all the contact
with your beloved one, try not to think about him or her constantly and don’t fantasize about getting back together again. This will all disrupt the process of detaching.
Try not to take the rejection too personally.
If it would be personal, he or she would never have started a relationship with you anyway.
resume an old hobby, clean up and organize your house and undertake new activities.
living in the past is very exhausting. Ask yourself what you really want: a breakup can be an impulse for a new stage in your life.
Make a fresh start:
Focus on your future:
Spend time with your friends
and talk about your feelings. Real friends will understand and support you. Try to talk about other subjects too: it will distract you and the time with your friends will be enjoyable for them as well.
this can give you a different mindset. Go to a spa with a good friend: it will not only clean you physically but also mentally.
increases the feel-good chemicals in your brains which reduces stress. It will be distractive as well.
Try to relax:
Working out Realize that you are used to a daily dose of the cuddle hormone oxytocin
and that you miss your shot. In this sense a relationship is certainly addictive and it takes time to get used to a lower dose. A massage can help you to increase the level of oxytocin in your brain and it will also help you to relax.
Last but not least: allow yourself to grieve.
It is essential to respect your emotions and not to push them away. On the other hand you shouldn’t let them take over your daily functioning. Unfortunately sometimes people slide into a depression after a breakup. If this happens it is crucial to get professional help.
Rosan Ouwerkerk is a Dutch registered psychotherapist and she runs a private practice in Playa del Carmen. If you think her help is required, you can contact her:
A breakup can be an impulse for a new stage in your life / Photo: www.hdwallpaper.nu