So here you are in the Netherlands, your family’s first or fifth international assignment. You’ve organised your house...well, more or less! The children are settled into their new international school. Your hairdresser’s English is excellent. Hello, good
Yes. Spring is in the air, and everything is in place. At least it would be if not for that feeling in the pit of your stomach. You know...that restlessness. You’d never say you’re unhappy, and unfulfilled would be too big a word. But that gnawing feeling that something’s missing just won’t go away. You try to ignore it but a little voice tells you how ungrateful you are to feel ‘that’ way because you’ve got it good; you’re living the life you’ve always dreamed of. You shouldn’t complain. Yet the more you look at the abundance of things you should feel grateful for, the guiltier you feel about that nagging question: Is this it?
If you’re a partner who’s put your dreams on hold to accompany your spouse, then this scenario probably sounds familiar. Welcome to the club. Restlessness, lack of fulfilment, disconnection all make sense when we partners allocate all our resources to helping others reach their goals and live their dreams.