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debt and saving for their retirement blow $35,000 on a single day?
Dads of New Zealand, you hold a very sacred and special place in your daughters’ lives.
You are a mentor, a role-model, a trusted adviser, a bulwark against a hard, hard world.
For all these reasons, you shouldn’t be funding their weddings unless you are loaded, and are working hard on building up their sense of entitlement.
Weddings are fine, but they are not as good as a) house deposits, b) student loan repayments, and c) savings.
This being true, the cost of weddings should be kept low.
The best weddings I have been to didn’t cost much (including my own all those years’ ago).
The worst ones (sometimes with the shortest-lived marriages) were the most expensive.
I believe wholeheartedly in not imposing a wedding list on your poor relations, borrowing the venue, and getting wed in pretty civvies not specially made finery.
Most of all I disapprove of expecting people to come to your wedding in the islands.
All those years’ ago, the Mrs and I managed to borrow a 15th century chapel in Cambridge, where we lived.
We rented a cottage by the river in Grantchester because all our friends were poor and couldn’t afford decent hotels. There was no wedding list. We self-catered.
It was poverty economics at work, and opportunism.
We didn’t have any money, and it would never have occurred to us to borrow.
The whole day cost next to nothing. It was lovely.
New Zealand is uniquely endowed for lovely pennypinching weddings.
You can wed anywhere, and we have beaches, parks, riversides and gardens in abundance.
You can pay a wedding celebrant (cost $150-$800), or have a private registry office wedding for $173.70, and have a beach ‘‘wedding’’ later with a friend or other loved on officiating.
One of the great modern freedoms is being able to break with costly tradition and do things your way.