GOLDEN RULES

Auckland City Harbour News - - OUT & ABOUT -

Wed­dings debt is dumb debt Bud­get wed­dings can be great You are free to re­ject tra­di­tion

debt and sav­ing for their re­tire­ment blow $35,000 on a sin­gle day?

Dads of New Zealand, you hold a very sa­cred and spe­cial place in your daugh­ters’ lives.

You are a men­tor, a role-model, a trusted ad­viser, a bul­wark against a hard, hard world.

For all these rea­sons, you shouldn’t be fund­ing their wed­dings un­less you are loaded, and are work­ing hard on build­ing up their sense of en­ti­tle­ment.

Wed­dings are fine, but they are not as good as a) house de­posits, b) stu­dent loan re­pay­ments, and c) sav­ings.

This be­ing true, the cost of wed­dings should be kept low.

The best wed­dings I have been to didn’t cost much (in­clud­ing my own all those years’ ago).

The worst ones (some­times with the short­est-lived mar­riages) were the most ex­pen­sive.

I be­lieve whole­heart­edly in not im­pos­ing a wed­ding list on your poor re­la­tions, bor­row­ing the venue, and get­ting wed in pretty civvies not spe­cially made fin­ery.

Most of all I dis­ap­prove of ex­pect­ing peo­ple to come to your wed­ding in the is­lands.

All those years’ ago, the Mrs and I man­aged to bor­row a 15th cen­tury chapel in Cam­bridge, where we lived.

We rented a cot­tage by the river in Grantch­ester be­cause all our friends were poor and couldn’t af­ford de­cent ho­tels. There was no wed­ding list. We self-catered.

It was poverty eco­nom­ics at work, and op­por­tunism.

We didn’t have any money, and it would never have oc­curred to us to bor­row.

The whole day cost next to noth­ing. It was lovely.

New Zealand is uniquely en­dowed for lovely pen­nypinch­ing wed­dings.

You can wed any­where, and we have beaches, parks, river­sides and gar­dens in abun­dance.

You can pay a wed­ding cel­e­brant (cost $150-$800), or have a pri­vate reg­istry of­fice wed­ding for $173.70, and have a beach ‘‘wed­ding’’ later with a friend or other loved on of­fi­ci­at­ing.

One of the great mod­ern free­doms is be­ing able to break with costly tra­di­tion and do things your way.

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