Our mums are ev­ery­thing, treat them that way

We of­ten for­get just how much our mothers do for us un­til we re­alise they are mere hu­mans, not su­per­heroes.

Central Otago Mirror - - FEATURES - By JENNA VAN DER HOORN

They cry like their chil­dren, they bleed like their chil­dren, they hurt like their chil­dren and they get sick like their chil­dren. The truth is, our mums do so much for us and some­times we just for­get how to ap­pre­ci­ate them for it. You can take your mum for granted some­times. You can push her away, make her feel like you don’t need her but she is al­ways there when you do need her. She never holds past de­ci­sions you made against you, or hold harsh words you may have said in a time of anger against you. But it comes back to real­is­ing that mum isn’t al­ways go­ing to be around, and you start to re­alise just how much you need to ap­pre­ci­ate her when you may lose her sooner than ex­pected. My mum was di­ag­nosed with breast can­cer in 2010, and the mag­ni­tude of what could hap­pen struck our small, tightknit fam­ily. We were a fam­ily of women who ar­gued, blamed mum for ev­ery­thing, never thanked her, held ev­ery­thing against her, and hid ev­ery­thing from her. She was a back­ground player in our game who fed us, clothed us and pro­vided for us, and it struck us that we could lose her and never truly took the time to ap­pre­ci­ate her. It was a time of ad­just­ing. From crying due to not get­ting our own way with her, to crying with her. From whin­ing about not get­ting what we wanted to wish­ing we just had her back to nor­mal and noth­ing else, we felt the true mag­ni­tude of the dis­ease, as well as the re­al­i­sa­tion of how much she ac­tu­ally did for us. So this Mother’s Day, and ev­ery day fol­low­ing, show your mum your true ap­pre­ci­a­tion for the part she holds in your life. For be­ing there, for help­ing you up when you’re down, for do­ing your wash­ing, cook­ing your tea, ev­ery small thing needs to be ap­pre­ci­ated. Three years later, Mum is in re­mis­sion. She is do­ing great and has in­stilled hope in oth­ers fight­ing the same dis­ease. It’s a wake-up call that we need to ap­pre­ci­ate our loved ones not just on Mother’s Day or Fa­ther’s Day, but ev­ery day. For Mother’s Day this year, I plan on giv­ing my mum the best gift a daugh­ter can give, the knowl­edge that I love her and ap­pre­ci­ate ev­ery­thing she does for me. What are you do­ing?

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