Laws of at­trac­tion a mys­tery

Central Otago Mirror - - CENTRAL NEWS -

I’ve said it be­fore, I’ll say it again. I am­con­stantly amazed by the peo­ple oth­ers choose to spend their lives with. On Satur­day I was on my way out to brunch at Pro­vi­sions in Ar­row­town when a friend rang to an­nounce her en­gage­ment. I was lost for words. I didn’t pre­dict this mar­riage.

She’s been mar­ried be­fore. I was a brides­maid. The wed­ding was stun­ning. It was a glo­ri­ous sunny day in a vine­yard, a ra­di­ant bride, string quar­tet, de­li­cious food, every­one had a fab­u­lous time. The cou­ple seemed per­fectly suited, both ed­u­cated, well-trav­elled and with high fly­ing ca­reers. And, as the best man said in his speech, both equally fond of liv­ing in a clut­tered house. We all thought it was a match made in heaven. The groom’s mother was the only source of fric­tion.

Eight years and two sons later, for rea­sons no-one in our cir­cle of friends has ever fully un­der­stood, they sep­a­rated. It was aw­ful. My friend swore she’d never get mar­ried again. Fast for­ward three years and she’s en­gaged to some­one she met six months ago and will marry in Septem­ber. He’s lovely but to­tally dif­fer­ent to her ex­hus­band. The laws and science of at­trac­tion are an end­less mys­tery. Still, all I want is hap­pi­ness for my friend. I dearly hope she finds it.

On another note, why do Queen­stown­ers have to say they’re ‘‘go­ing up the hill: in­stead of say­ing they’re go­ing ski­ing? It’s not ur­bane and witty, it’s just an­noy­ing. ◗ Queen­stown’s Sin­gle Girl is look­ing for true love. Ad­vice and po­ten­tial can­di­dates should be emailed to mir­

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