John was right: life gets in the way
When I was at high school there was an annual speech competition. One year someone gave a speech about John Lennon. It was many years after his assassination and I’m not sure why she chose Lennon as a subject, but I remember that the speech included a well-known quote of his.
It was about how life happens while you’re busy making other plans. I thought it was ridiculous. As I saw the world, you didn’t just let life happen and coast on through. You made the plan and followed it without letting anything get in the way. End of story.
My plans included an incredible career, five children and an open cheque book. I liked the idea of never having to worry about asking the price of anything. I had friends with similar goals.
But I was 16 then. There was nothing I didn’t know and nothing I could learn from John Lennon or anyone else. How wrong I was.
I’m older now. I’m perhaps not wiser but undeniably older. Suddenly the years flew by and John was right. Life has got in the way.
I’ve learnt that things don’t always go to plan and that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
I respect those with singled minded vision who achieve great things. However, I now know it doesn’t come easily. There are sacrifices, and despite outward appearances no one has the perfect life. Money certainly doesn’t solve everything.
I met someone at a party recently. He was a friend of a friend who was in town for a few days. He was good company and I took an immediate shine to him. Unfortunately there’s not much chance I’ll ever see him again let alone venture out on a date. Some people make an impression though.
He reminded me of a guy a friend of mine dated years ago. At the time I was aghast when it started to get serious. I couldn’t handle the fact he was perpetually borrowing money from her. To be fair he was a lot of fun and hosted some fabulous parties but he was never one to concern himself with such things as saving money or even the future generally. He lived in the moment, and made ‘‘chilling out’’ into an art form.
I was more drawn to the idea of being one half of a power couple and a boyfriend who shared my vision for hard work, fame and fortune.
Now I see the point of taking time to smell the roses. Relaxing with friends has become one of my favourite hobbies.
These days I wonder if those who enjoy each day and don’t think too far ahead are the wise ones. The devastation wreaked by the recent earthquakes is a reminder that no matter how much we might want to be in the driving seat, many things are beyond our control.
If was writing the speech I would have included this quote from John Lennon ‘‘time you enjoy wasting, is not wasted’’.
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