Who can use the Ma¯ori word ‘mana’?

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stage pres­ence or man­ages to score a try in a tough game of rugby. Your father, whilst well in­ten­tioned, has hit a nerve.

But to look at this from your ex father-in-law’s view­point, the word is cul­tur­ally sig­nif­i­cant. The fact that it’s been hi­jacked grand­fa­ther mana is just a la­bel, a de­scrip­tive word, but to the other grand­fa­ther, mana is an in­tan­gi­ble qual­ity and has a far deeper mean­ing.

Either way, the two men need to talk away from the hype, al­co­hol and crowd of a party. Some­one has to open dis­cus­sions and I won­der if you could ask your father to make the ap­proach?

It’s a tough thing for any­one to step up and of­fer a gen­uine apol­ogy but your father has un­wit­tingly caused this rift by stray­ing into a sen­si­tive area.

From what I can gather, mana holds hands with hu­mil­ity. If your father could do this, it would be a great ex­am­ple to his grand­son.

Mary-anne Scott has raised four boys and writ­ten three nov­els for young adults, in­clud­ing Stick­ing With Pigs which was re­leased in March 2018. (One Tree House). As one of seven sis­ters, there aren’t many par­ent­ing prob­lems she hasn’t talked over. To send her a ques­tion email life.style@stuff.co.nz with Dear Mary-anne in the sub­ject line. Your anonymity is as­sured.

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The lin­ger­ing bad feel­ing be­tween the grand­fa­thers need to be ad­dressed, as the per­son suf­fer­ing the most is their grand­son.

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