Who can use the Ma¯ori word ‘mana’?
stage presence or manages to score a try in a tough game of rugby. Your father, whilst well intentioned, has hit a nerve.
But to look at this from your ex father-in-law’s viewpoint, the word is culturally significant. The fact that it’s been hijacked grandfather mana is just a label, a descriptive word, but to the other grandfather, mana is an intangible quality and has a far deeper meaning.
Either way, the two men need to talk away from the hype, alcohol and crowd of a party. Someone has to open discussions and I wonder if you could ask your father to make the approach?
It’s a tough thing for anyone to step up and offer a genuine apology but your father has unwittingly caused this rift by straying into a sensitive area.
From what I can gather, mana holds hands with humility. If your father could do this, it would be a great example to his grandson.
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The lingering bad feeling between the grandfathers need to be addressed, as the person suffering the most is their grandson.