THE SO­CIA­BLE YEARS

Good Health Choices - - Be Inspired -

When you start work, you’ll prob­a­bly be mix­ing with peo­ple of dif­fer­ent ages and back­grounds, which can open up your friend­ship group – but it can still be tricky to break into a new cir­cle.

THE SO­LU­TION Use your cur­rent friends to meet other peo­ple by sug­gest­ing they bring new col­leagues or flat­mates along to par­ties. Use Face­book and What­sApp to make new con­nec­tions, but fix ar­range­ments off­line; don’t ex­pect a few likes on a post to turn into friend­ship.

Dr Amy Banks, a psy­chi­a­trist and the au­thor of Wired to Con­nect, sug­gests you check in with a friend a cou­ple of times a week. “If you ne­glect friend­ship at any stage of life, you’ll feel less com­pe­tent when you meet new peo­ple,” she warns.

If you’ve never felt com­fort­able in groups, this is the time to break away as it should be eas­ier to have a drink with an in­di­vid­ual friend than it might have been at uni. And don’t feel bad about it. “Not join­ing a group is fine,” says Banks.

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