Analise still seek­ing in­for­ma­tion on fa­ther

Kapi-Mana News - - FRONT PAGE - VIR­GINIA FAL­LON

Analise Forster knows there may not be a happy end­ing to her story.

Eight months af­ter a pub­lic plea for her dad - or any­one who knew him - to get in touch, the Blen­heim woman is still wait­ing ... and hop­ing.

Forster knows a small hand­ful of things about her fa­ther – his name was Sefu or Sefo, he lived in Porirua in 1995 and he had a Bob Mar­ley jersey.

The 21-year-old wears it now, par­tic­u­larly when her anx­i­ety is bad.

The Blen­heim woman ac­cepted she might never find her dad but be­fore she gave up she wanted to make cer­tain that she had tried ev­ery­thing she could.

Sefu, or Sefo, be­came a fa­ther when Forster was born on March 23, 1996.

Her par­ents had met the pre­vi­ous year when her mother, Kelly, was work­ing as a hair­dresser in Welling­ton.

‘‘My mother said some­one was meant to tell him she was preg­nant but he never got the mes­sage.’’

Last year’s pub­lic plea was made even harder by the anx­i­ety Forster suf­fers but she was de­ter­mined to over­come it to try and find her dad.

Af­ter she told her story in Au­gust, she was flooded by en­quiries and tips but the mes­sages soon dried up or came to noth­ing, she said.

‘‘Mum found it hard but only be­cause she was con­cerned about me cop­ing with it all.’’

Her search was about con­nect­ing with her Samoan her­itage and dis­cov­er­ing the other side of her life, she said.

‘‘I don’t want any­thing other than to get to know him – I don’t want any­thing else from him.’’

Sal­va­tion Army fam­ily trac­ing ser­vice team leader Vivi­enne Hill said Forster’s case was a com­mon one, par­tic­u­larly when it came to miss­ing fa­thers.

‘‘We get about 1000 calls a year and many of them don’t have a name or a date of birth.’’

It was a ‘‘mind blow­ing’’ job re­unit­ing fam­ily mem­bers but not all wanted to be found, she said.

‘‘That’s heart­break­ing as the en­quirer has of­ten built a fan­tasy around the per­son and the end re­sult isn’t what they wanted.’’

Hill’s ad­vice for searchers was sim­ple.

’’Keep try­ing un­til it’s an im­pos­si­bil­ity and then you have to let it go.

‘‘Don’t let it ruin your fu­ture. Peo­ple tend to get so caught up in the jour­ney they for­get to live.’’

SCOTT HAM­MOND/FAIR­FAX NZ

Analise Forster holds the only clue to her fa­ther - a Bob Mar­ley jersey he once wore.

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