Olivia (8 months)
My husband has been amazing throughout the whole thing. He was home for about a month. Although it was the hardest thing we’ve ever been through together, it was also the most amazing thing. When I think back to the newborn days, I just remember feeding her and handing her over to Lee so I could get some sleep, then he’d hand her over a couple of hours later and I’d feed her again then pass out. I’d do the nightshift while he slept. The first two months are the hardest. You can read all the books and you can talk to everybody but you honestly have no idea what it’s like until it actually happens. I had my mum and my husband’s dad nearby, who were both really amazing. Getting rest was really helpful, drinking lots of water and eating well. I found it really hard going from a midwife to Plunket because you go from this really nurturing, helpful, at-your-beck-and-call kind of thing to a Plunket nurse who is very black and white and tells you ‘this is how it needs to be’.