JOANNE

Se­bas­tian (8 months)

Little Treasures - - COFFEE GROUP -

My hus­band was off work for six weeks from the time I gave birth. It was funny be­cause I started to get con­trac­tions the day he stopped work­ing and gave birth that night. I’m re­ally lucky that he was around be­cause it was tough. No mat­ter how many peo­ple would say ‘Do this’, ‘Do that’, it’s so dif­fer­ent for ev­ery­one. The thing that got me most was the sleep. I was lucky if I got an hour’s sleep straight. Se­bas­tian had a tongue tie. It was good that we knew what was wrong but it was very, very chal­leng­ing. Be­cause I was re­ally keen on breast­feed­ing, I ended up feed­ing him and pump­ing ev­ery two hours just to keep the milk go­ing. Wash­ing and ster­il­is­ing ev­ery­thing was hard. My hus­band would help with that, and the feed­ing. We didn’t have much help apart from each other. Most of our friends were in dif­fer­ent places in their lives. We were the first ones to have a baby so it was re­ally very dif­fer­ent. It was a big ad­just­ment so­cially as well, be­cause you can’t just go to the pub. I felt iso­lated from my other friends so my main cop­ing mech­a­nism was our cof­fee group. I’m re­ally happy that we in­vested in birth classes. More than just pay­ing and show­ing up, it’s about mak­ing the time. Now we have that group, we can eas­ily ask each other ques­tions so it’s re­ally help­ful. The in­ter­net plays a ma­jor role too. My par­ents are here but they work, so their help is lim­ited.

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