Sebastian (8 months)
My husband was off work for six weeks from the time I gave birth. It was funny because I started to get contractions the day he stopped working and gave birth that night. I’m really lucky that he was around because it was tough. No matter how many people would say ‘Do this’, ‘Do that’, it’s so different for everyone. The thing that got me most was the sleep. I was lucky if I got an hour’s sleep straight. Sebastian had a tongue tie. It was good that we knew what was wrong but it was very, very challenging. Because I was really keen on breastfeeding, I ended up feeding him and pumping every two hours just to keep the milk going. Washing and sterilising everything was hard. My husband would help with that, and the feeding. We didn’t have much help apart from each other. Most of our friends were in different places in their lives. We were the first ones to have a baby so it was really very different. It was a big adjustment socially as well, because you can’t just go to the pub. I felt isolated from my other friends so my main coping mechanism was our coffee group. I’m really happy that we invested in birth classes. More than just paying and showing up, it’s about making the time. Now we have that group, we can easily ask each other questions so it’s really helpful. The internet plays a major role too. My parents are here but they work, so their help is limited.