Mourning mother shares loss
In her hand sits a fabric heart, its comforting heft the exact weight her premature baby daughter was.
On her dresser, a small brown bear holds some of baby Aria’s ashes, the rest are worn in a special locket around her mother’s neck. Her father wears another. For Megan* it is soothing to have her daughter’s ashes so close. And following her ordeal, the 23-year-old says the support of others who understand her situation has been ‘‘invaluable’’.
She is encouraging others who have experienced the death of a baby to seek help dealing with their loss.
First-time mother Megan was heartbroken after her daughter, Aria, was delivered stillborn at just 17-weeks-old.
The Blenheim woman had been at Wellington Hospital where she was scheduled to meet maternal fetal medicine specialists when she went into premature labour. Doctors and staff rushed to help, said Megan but her daughter died in the womb.
What followed will haunt her always, she says.
‘‘It’s a sensitive subject but one in four women go through it; there are so many people who have opened up to me about their losses, losses they had never mentioned before. I want people to know that they are not the only ones going through this, people should be more open,’’ she says.
Marlborough SANDS volunteer and bereaved parent Anna Simpson says the group is always available to those needing help.
For help and support contact the pregnancy, baby and infant loss support group Marlborough SANDS support network via Sandra Sangster on 027 488 1068 or 03 579 4212, Sarah Fissenden on 027 275 7000 or Anna Simpson on 03 577 7765 or 021 270 2662. Also visit sands.org.nz and huggablehearts.co.nz.
*Names have been changed to protect the identity of the family involved.