Fresh look at per­sis­tent pit­fall side of par­ent­ing

Matamata Chronicle - - News - By NICKI DAVIDSON

When it comes to par­ent­ing, one size does not fit all. A sim­ple state­ment but one that coun­sel­lor and re­la­tion­ship coach Al­lan Baker and his wife Sue talk about in the se­ries of par­ent­ing evenings they are run­ning.

‘‘We want to help par­ents to un­der­stand each other and in turn un­der­stand the dif­fer­ences in their kids, equip­ping them with the skills, val­ues and knowl­edge to be suc­cess­ful adults,’’ Mr Baker said.

Two Wed­nes­day night ses­sions have al­ready cov­ered topics like the dif­fer­ence be­tween left-and right-brained peo­ple. Tonight cov­ers as­sertive­ness, ne­go­ti­a­tion skills and restor­ing trust af­ter it has been bro­ken, and next Wed­nes­day looks at un­der­stand­ing anger, what to do with it and man­ag­ing the en­ergy it cre­ates.

Mr Baker, who has a client base from Ash­bur­ton to North Auck­land, said it is not your av­er­age par­ent­ing course.

‘‘It’s a fresh way of look­ing at par­ent­ing, help­ing peo­ple to un­der­stand them­selves and their kids bet­ter, with a com­mon sense Kiwi-style ap­proach. It’s learn­ing and prac­tis­ing to say no re­spect­fully, ne­go­ti­at­ing and un­der­stand­ing what kids learn by watch­ing adults.’’

The evenings are held at Mata­mata Chris­tian School from 7pm to 9pm. Sup­per is pro­vided. The cost is $10 per cou­ple.

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